My name is Annabelle and I am a mother and parent carer for my son Vincent (5 years) and daughter named Vala (11 months). Whilst he is still on the waiting list for a diagnosis assessment for the second time, he has been characterised as Complex Special Needs. Just like any regular parent, you do anything you can to help your child. But in our household, it can mean anything from helping him dress, reminders to eat and being gentle with his baby sister. Every day is different, whilst it can mean the same routines and reminders, it can also hold hope and a new possibility. Even when we struggle with his behaviours and traits at times, we still wouldn’t have him any other way.
You know when you’ve told your child a numerous amount of times not to do something- purely because you can see scenarios playing in your mind as to what could happen? Unfortunately, one of those happened today. We’ve told Vincent many times to not pick Vala up. This being that we didn’t want him to trip up, drop her, fall over her, slip up, fall down etc. And guess what? It happened… Vincent slipped up with his body falling to the floor, Vala fell face down and her little body was trapped underneath his. She started having a nosebleed and we all started freaking out!
I called 111 and as her reactions towards the accident were normal, the doctor was satisfied she was fine.
But what can you say? You can’t say ‘I told you so!’ and you can’t scowl at them either for an accident. It’s finding the balance between making them learn and remember from the experience. But being completely honest, Vincent’s memory is a mystery sometimes. He can remember things that he has interest in but forget things just as easily. For instance – if you want to know how a steam train works and all the working components on it, he’s your little man! Yet, he can forget things that are basic to us – like brushing your teeth.
I do like to tell Vincent that he has a super brain too though, it’s wired completely differently, and I have no doubt he’ll have an incredible future.
We all think he’ll either be a train engineer, traffic light technician or an astronaut!
The only difficult part is helping him get there, realising his potential, making sure he doesn’t feel abnormal because he’s different and allowing him to be a child!