My name is Annabelle and I am a mother and parent carer for my son Vincent (5 years) and daughter named Vala (11 months). Whilst he is still on the waiting list for a diagnosis assessment for the second time, he has been characterised as Complex Special Needs. Just like any regular parent, you do anything you can to help your child. But in our household, it can mean anything from helping him dress, reminders to eat and being gentle with his baby sister. Every day is different, whilst it can mean the same routines and reminders, it can also hold hope and a new possibility. Even when we struggle with his behaviours and traits at times, we still wouldn’t have him any other way.
Well as you have probably gathered by now, my children are little morning people. As soon as that sun comes up, they’re up. So, it shouldn’t have been a surprise that they woke up around 5am. That’s the funny thing about siblings, if one gets up first, it’s not too much longer before the other gets up too – at least when they’re younger!
Majority of the day went okay, although there were a lot more reminders for Vincent to eat. The poor lad has a sniffly nose and phlegmy cough, with a mix of asthma and the start of hay fever. It doesn’t seem to matter how many times we give him his inhalers these days, the sniffle makes him cough and turns into a cough and sneeze attack.
There were many reminders and time-outs for almost and actually hurting his sister though.
Although I do wonder if about this… the look on his face sometimes after he’s physically hurt Vala, Daddy or myself can be pure shock. Like during a certain moment or feeling, he’s lost control and some other part of his brain took command instead. Perhaps it’s an immediate reaction, like flicking an insect off of your arm. It could just be me blindly looking for answers as to how a child with possible ASD and ADHD may think and feel. Just like all parents look for answers when something’s wrong with their children. And I can honestly say, I’ve spent a lot of my free time looking up information around Vincent. As I’m sure a lot of parents to special needs children do. To find answers to help ease the stress and tensions of everyday life, to help them learn in their own way, and cope with things they may not be able to avoid – socialising for example.
Of course, with Vincent being five, boundaries are still pushed to their limits. But we do try our best to determine whether it’s for attention (good or bad) or something is bothering him.
The mystery continues!